Is That So?
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By Dani Castro
Kassia and I got really close during the six weeks of training for our new job. We had to drive for one hour to Peterborough, and another one hour back to Whitby. Luckily we bonded!! Otherwise these trips would be very boring.
During this time we talked a lot, about everything. Life, daughters, husbands, past, present, future… we philosophized, we had silly talks, serious talks, we laughed, and we even cried! In a short time I was already sure that I loved my (then) new friend. We are not very alike… perhaps this is the reason our friendship worked so well!! I am more sentimental… Kassia is more rational. I am more complicated… Kassia is practical. I am often “too mindful”, worried of what people may think, while Kassia goes straight to the point. Even though I love to talk, I am a bit shy in a new environment, while Kassia is more relaxed.
I can say that I’ve already learned a lot from Kassia, but without question the “is that so?” technique I’ll keep for life. I just need to learn how to use it more naturally. Let me explain!! I already improved a bit, thanks to this knowledge, but I had the bad habit of getting stressed with discussions that go nowhere… like when someone tries to convince me of something I am sure won’t work, or something that goes against my principles. Before I met Kassia, I tried to explain my point of view, I talked, I argued, I worried… and the outcome was always getting myself upset. One day Kassia told me that every time someone comes to her with this kind of issue, something that she thinks it’s absurd, she does not even think… just say “is that so?” and moves on! No worries, no stress.
I loved this technique! It’s just hard when I tell her something and she replies “is that so?!” LOL